“Women used to have it easy. You could choose to stay at home, have a career, or be a sex slave. These days you have to be all three.” – Peg Bundy

Musings from the Home PlanetSo, where are we now?

Feminism used to be about equality in business and the political worlds. Then it was about who was morally better, women or men. Then it was about being blurring gender lines.

While the different forms of Feminism were slugging it out, we also had the inter-feminine wars: the stay-at-home moms and the career moms.  Currently, a  cease-fire exists where we seem to be trying to form an alliance. Sadly, that common ground seems to center around a woman’s sexuality. No longer does it matter whether you make a career choice or stayed at home. We are women, damn it!  We are all sisters in the same fight against aging – and we can prove it by our gym passes and our  lingerie!

At the present moment, Feminism is focused on power-Feminism with the aim of destroying the “Patriarchy.” But suppose what we call the “Patriarchy” is the social construct we need to make the right changes to our system? What if what we have today is built on hundreds of years of Western philosophical thought and progress? What if it’s this development, which have allowed women the greatest amount of equality and autonomy in human history, is one of the end products of that heritage? What happens if we tear it down?

On the other side, many people believe the female emancipation effort  has reached its end. However, I believe we are still in the process of coming to grips with so many new options for men and women.  That change can largely be credited to the political movements launched by women which gave us the vote and financial independence. At the same time, advances in science and technology have freed women (and men) from time-consuming domestic tasks. Our lives are changing with new technology giving us new moral and ethical challenges. DNA testing and surrogate mothers are such recent advancements that we are still in the early stages of understanding how they affect the social dynamics of family life.

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Re: Why you should never say “It’s not my job” (even when it’s not).

… from the office of MOM

Watching some young people (you know who you are) out in the working world, I sometimes wonder where their parents are. Then I wonder where my bosses are. . .

I understand that the concept that “the customer is always right” is no longer taught in many workplaces, however, I think that the expression has gotten a bad rap (I know I’m dating myself here). It doesn’t mean – and has never meant – that the customer gets his/her own way all the time. And there is a reason why it’s good for you, the employee, to learn rules that seem counterintuitive in the beginning.

Here was the scene at the grocery store last week: I was bagging for a 20-something cashier who was telling a customer that she had picked up the wrong item for the coupon she wanted to use. The customer said something to her that I couldn’t quite hear, but began with: “You should…”

At this point, the cashier threw her head back and snapped, “That’s not my department.”
The situation escalated as the customer angrily snatched back her coupon from the cashier’s hand. The cashier responded with, “So rude.”

The next few minutes were very uncomfortable for everyone as the groceries were bagged up. Then the customer left in silence.

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Wishing Everyone a Peaceful Holiday…



Whether you’re celebrating Christmas or simply enjoying some family time together, I hope it’s a happy and restful time for you and those you love.

The Day Job: Shift Happens

Previously, I spoke about the challenges of working and writing.(The Writing Life: Keep the Day Job)

Today I want to say that I now understand why Millenials are having such a difficult time balancing their lives. Not only is it hard to find a full time jobs, the shift changes from day to day make it almost impossible to have a life outside of work.

Last year I worked as a waitress and, as hard as that was, I loved it. The hours were late and long, but consistent. The job I have now is also hard work, but my hours have no rhyme or reason to them. I work late several nights (past 11 pm) and then have to be in very early in the morning on other days. Shift changes like this make it difficult to get enough sleep every day. I felt young at my old job and now I feel old at my new job.
Millenials suffer the most, I believe, as they never knew a time when this kind of scheduling was frowned on. When I ask co-workers why the scheduling is like this they don’t seem to see it as a problem that can be overcome. They seem to be unaware that they should have better options and that means the job shouldn’t infringe on every waking moment of one’s life.

I’m sure that this sad situation arose out of a need for “flexible scheduling,” but it’s morphed over the years into a chaotic monster that shatters any ability to make plans off company time.  I often find I have no idea whether its morning or night while I’m at work – there’s no frame of reference if one starts work at 6pm one day and 8am the next. The hours blend together – endlessly in some grotesque cycle of work and sleep.

The paranoid in me wonders if it’s not a master plot by some evil HR head. To keep from having to listen to employees complain that they don’t want to work late shifts or they don’t want morning shifts – some genius decided to give everyone bizarre schedules . Then the misery is shared and no one can complain their schedule is the worst. They’re all equally bad.

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Texas – Eclipse on Monday, Hurricane on Friday…

We’ve been preoccupied with the sky lately. Slowly, things are returning to normal around here.

Fortunately, we’re safe. My family is safe. Most people I know are okay. Still, so many are not tonight. Pray for Texas!